1. How do you keep the romantic spark alive?
PP: Be positive, remind yourself every day of the things you love about your partner and compliment them about those things daily- yes I said daily. 🙂 Maintain your intimacy every day, several times a day. Hold hands, sit next to each other on the couch, hug and kiss hello and good bye, text, talk on the phone what ever helps you stay connected. You need to maintain the connection even in your busy, crazy life. The strength you draw from that will make it easier to handle everything life has to throw at you.
2. What are your rules for fighting fair?
PP: Respect your partner’s point of view even if you don’t agree with it. Don’t attack them, or their point, don’t be negative or dismissive. Don’t speak in a condescending tone. Evaluate what is really bugging you and have a rational discussion about it. Treat your partner the way you would like to be treated. Don’t focus on who’s right and who’s wrong, whose at fault, or placing blame focus on finding a positive solution or resolution to the problem.
3. What do you enjoy most about each other in your day to day life?
L: There are soooo many things that I love about Pepper that I find it hard/impossible to pick a “most”. I love the way she feels when we embrace. I love the way we sleep together. I love who she is as a woman/mother/wife. I love that we complement each other’s way of living; I may tend to be more outgoing and she tends to be more grounded, it gives our relationship balance.
4. If you ever felt like quitting, how come you didn’t?
5. What is the most important advice you would give to a young couple?
PP: You have to be an emotionally healthy individual to have a healthy relationship. Only you can make yourself happy, don’t expect someone else to do it. Healthy relationships take work – everyday- yes I said everyday, doesn’t matter if your busy, tired, frustrated, sick, angry, busy with the kids, had a bad day at work. You have to be able to put all those things aside at some point and connect with your partner. If you make the investment, the your return should be limitless. You will get out of the relationship only as much as you put into the relationship. Be positive, respect each other, be best friends and always keep alive the happy, giddy feeling you had when you first met.