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Don’t Make Him/Her the Adventure…

…embark on Adventure together! What I mean by that is, I’m really glad that I am not my husband’s adventure. I am not THE Big, Exciting, Fulfilling Thing in his life. Yes, our relationship is important to both of us, but we want to go on an adventure together. We

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A Little Pre-Date Action

Now, I don’t know if this idea would work for everyone… Several years into our marriage we realized that sex before an evening out works better than sex at the end of the evening. I’m not sure why it took us so long to figure this out. I guess it’s

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Be Nice, Poopoo Baby Car!

When our son was just a little guy, he would sometimes get fed up with his older sister…as younger brothers are prone to do. For a brief period of time, he would respond to her bossing with, “Be nice, poopoo baby car!” Too brief, if you ask me. What he

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Like Fine Wine

Like Fine Wine

I young woman asked me this recently: “When I sense distance between me and my boyfriend, I tend to want to talk it out and come to agreement quickly, but he tends to want to process by himself for a time before he talks it out with me. Is this

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Know That Emotion!

What emotional response do you have to conflict? The reason I ask is because early in our marriage, when we would have conflict, I would feel sadness and Rick would feel anger. Here’s how it would play out: We would have an argument. Then I would, hating the feeling of

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Try.

This one’s gonna be touchy. I’m going to say it anyway. Ladies and Gentlemen both: try to look good for each other. I will now make a couple of sweeping generalizations: • Women seem to get turned on when their man does/says things to make them feel loved. • Men

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“Love Languages”

Within the first two years of our marriage, someone suggested the book, “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman – it totally blew our minds. I recall being occasionally frustrated by what I could only attribute to a husband who was clinically nuts – rushing around after he got home

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Pay Now or Pay Later

Back when we were just young pups, and our kids were little, we met with a very wise mentor who asked, “Have you been going out and spending time together away from your kids?” Most young parents recognize the need (or at least the desire) to get away for an

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Resolve… and Agree to Agree

The term, “Agree to Disagree” is often touted as good advice for couples, but I think that only works for things in the differences-of-opinion category. We should distinguish between differences of opinion (I wanted to go out for Mexican, he wanted to go out for Mediterranean), and actual issues that

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Resolve… Fast! (the basic idea)

I can count on one hand how many times in the last 20 years I have fallen asleep angry at my husband. It’s probably a record or something. I remember the first time it happened, because later that night, I woke up crying hard from a terrible and realistic nightmare