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“A Severe Mercy”

Just one month into our wedding, I had an experience that changed my life. It was a weekday evening, we were in bed, restless and trying to get some sleep. For some reason, it was just one of those nights when neither of us could get there. Just as one

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Critical Much?

There’s a certain tone that can be heard in a group of women. Maybe in a group of men, too, but I wouldn’t know. One woman will make a disparaging remark about her husband, then the others will chime in: such dopes, these men we married. I try to imagine

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Be Nice, Poopoo Baby Car!

When our son was just a little guy, he would sometimes get fed up with his older sister…as younger brothers are prone to do. For a brief period of time, he would respond to her bossing with, “Be nice, poopoo baby car!” Too brief, if you ask me. What he

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Like Fine Wine

Like Fine Wine

I young woman asked me this recently: “When I sense distance between me and my boyfriend, I tend to want to talk it out and come to agreement quickly, but he tends to want to process by himself for a time before he talks it out with me. Is this

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Know That Emotion!

What emotional response do you have to conflict? The reason I ask is because early in our marriage, when we would have conflict, I would feel sadness and Rick would feel anger. Here’s how it would play out: We would have an argument. Then I would, hating the feeling of

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Resolve… and Agree to Agree

The term, “Agree to Disagree” is often touted as good advice for couples, but I think that only works for things in the differences-of-opinion category. We should distinguish between differences of opinion (I wanted to go out for Mexican, he wanted to go out for Mediterranean), and actual issues that

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Resolve… Fast! (the basic idea)

I can count on one hand how many times in the last 20 years I have fallen asleep angry at my husband. It’s probably a record or something. I remember the first time it happened, because later that night, I woke up crying hard from a terrible and realistic nightmare

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We Must Be OLD.

Looking down our outline of topics we’d like to discuss on this blog, I’m aware that many of them are about things that more people just knew thirty years ago… Things that were more expected, like courtesy, spending time talking, hanging in there when things are rough, mutual respect, people

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Some Reasons Why…

Nobody means to mess up their marriage. It can happen in so many ways, it’s frightening. Here’s a popular theme: Emotional Immaturity right outta the gate. It’s funny, but we’ve heard great success stories from people who married young, and also tragedies, but I think the deciding factor isn’t necessarily

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CAUTION!

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