The thing is, there’s this stereotype in our culture that women really aren’t interested in sex (in marriage), and men are rabid for it. He thinks about it all the time, and doesn’t really care how she feels about it as long as he gets some. She has better things to do, and wishes he would help out with other things more before they hit the sheets. Isn’t that about how it goes?
Here’s the deal. If you’re a woman and really aren’t interested in having as much sex as your man does, try to have it anyway sometimes. The way to a man’s heart is often through his penis. And, if you happen to make yourself look as lovely as you can, that won’t hurt either, because he is a visual creature, and will appreciate it!
If you’re a man, try to not pout when sex doesn’t happen and you thought it would. Be patient, and you will often be rewarded. Think about what you have done lately that makes her feel loved and admired. Does she know you think she’s beautiful? Have you told her? Have you been thoughtful about what’s been going on in her life/during her day? Ask her about it. And open up about your feelings – she likes it when you let her in there.
When she is doing those things, and he is doing those things, intimacy happens. They both feel loved… and the more they both feel loved, the more they will each do to make each other feel even MORE loved.
It’s a really good spiral up!
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