Here’s a popular theme: Emotional Immaturity right outta the gate.
It’s funny, but we’ve heard great success stories from people who married young, and also tragedies, but I think the deciding factor isn’t necessarily age. My parents started dating as juniors in highschool, then married after their freshman year in college. They both knew what they wanted to do professionally, knew each other’s families, had grown up with many serious circumstances (both had brothers in WW2 and lived through the Great Depression). They also had families who cared for them and loved them. At the tender age of 19, my parents probably had more emotional maturity than most people in their late-twenties have today.
How about good communication skills?
Are you emotionally prepared? Well, are you afraid to bring up topics that might feel uncomfortable? When you do, can you navigate through the conversation without storming away, yelling, or calling names? Do you hide your thoughts or feelings? Can you communicate them clearly, without blame?
We weren’t necessarily terribly emotionally prepared when we got married, but we knew we wanted to go there. If you both want intimacy and real partnership, it might help to figure out how to do these things!
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